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Make More Mistakes

In life, we will all have experiences that won’t go exactly as we want them to…most likely this will happen more than once. Sometimes small details are forgotten, the timing just isn’t right, or you made a mistake. Mistakes are tough to swallow – for me at least. I would tend to say I lean towards being a perfectionist, which means I don’t like making mistakes. Often times being a perfectionist is beneficial to me, because it pushes me to work my hardest and give my best effort. Yet when that inevitable mistake is made, I am very hard on myself.

As a student, its integral to make mistakes. If we were all literally perfect, there would be no point for us to be in college, to be taking classes and learning new information – because we would know it all already! Even so called perfectionists like myself need to make mistakes because that is the only way to learn. I wanted to share with you a recent “mistake” I made, how it affected me, and how I am using this to learn and move forward.

Over the past few weeks, I have been interviewing for internships for next semester. I had an in person interview with a major television network in one of their digital production departments. I felt very confident going into the interview (despite my butterflies) about my resume and my skills that were applicable to the internship. From the moment I walked into the interview, I felt a connection with the women I was to speak with. We were laughing and established a great rapport. The interview went very well, I shook their hands and thanked them for their time and off I went!

With this certain company, when they contact you letting you know about the outcome of the interview, they give you feedback as to how your interview went and pointers on what to do better. A few days later, I received my email and was very upset to find that I didn’t get the internship. They said my interview went great, and it came down to me and another candidate. The determining factor was that the other candidate had sent a follow up email to the interviewers and I hadn’t….

Immediately my heart went into my stomach. I can’t believe I forgot to send a follow up email! I have done multiple interviews and ALWAYS send a follow up email – how had I forgotten?! This is where the “beating self up” begins, and asking myself “What as I thinking? Or what wasn’t I thinking?!” I couldn’t believe that had I not forgotten to send an email thanking them, I possibly could’ve had the internship. How could I be so stupid??

And this is where I had to stop myself, take a step back, and flip the way I was looking at this. Despite being disappointed and embarrassed, there was nothing I could do to change the situation now. I know I gave my best during the interview, and for some reason I had forgotten to follow up. Its okay. I’m not going to die. The world isn’t going to burn over. I’m just not going to intern with that company at this time. Simple as that. ITS OKAY.

This mistake, that seemed so monumental in the moment, was such a learning experience for me. Although it came with temporary uncomfortable feelings, I walked away from it learning something – that I will never NOT send a follow up email. That will always be a priority from here on out, when entering the job market.

This event opened me up to a bigger idea – that in my life, I need to make more mistakes. That its OKAY. I need to sometimes fall down, so I can get up a bit bruised, but a heck of a lot stronger and smarter. Life isn’t meant to be understood – and boy do I not always understand it. But I believe that moments like these, and many others, happen at a specific time for a specific reason, so that I can LEARN something specific. I can’t always be Brendan the Perfectionist. It won’t always work that way. I will make mistakes, I will learn, and I will always be a gracious, positive, hardworking person. And that’s what truly matters.

Thanks for letting me vent a bit. I tell you this story to prevent the same thing from happening to you. I hope this lesson applies to more than just thank you notes, but bigger things as well. Its also ironic because I’ve written a blog post in the past about sending Thank You notes after interviews – and look who forgot 😉 Well, I’m human. And it’s okay.







It’s that time! What we have all been waiting for…. FITSA’s DRAG PAGEANT! If you are interested in participating in the fierce competition make sure to audition in the Katie Murphy Amphitheatre  on November 18th or 24th and be prepared with your headshot, resume, and rehearsed lip sync dance!

The Drag Pageant is known to be a highlight of the school year! Don’t miss out if you are interested in participating! Please contact Karina Grosssman (karina_grossman@fitnyc.edu) or Ashleigh Bagnata (ashleigh_bagnata@fitnyc.edu) for more information or to reserve an audition time slot!

FIT has Pride!

Hey everyone !

So this past week FIT showed its colors in the breezeway, while presenting FIT Pride Day. This day was one that is close to my heart. Having Friends, Family, and many loved ones who are gay, lesbian, whatever sexuality it may be, who are very close to me. I have seen there struggles, I have been there when they couldn’t tell there families, their heart break , the smiles on there faces when they realized there family didn’t look at them differently, My best friend when he finally went on his first date, the happiness in there eyes when they are finally free to let go and be themselves.


It is finally 2015 and I am proud to be apart of the generation that is more than accepting, times have finally changed. Where everyone is free to be themselves,  same sex marriage was finally approved , and the world is becoming a much happier place.  I love that FIT shows everyone support regardless of race, gender, or sexuality. So when  deciding if you want to be apart of FIT ask yourself do you want to be apart of a family? Or just another student at a school. At FIT you are not just another number in a desk, you are known by name and are able to be apart of a very close knit family.

How do you show your pride?




Family Time

For those of you who don’t commute, it is a beautiful thing when your parents or family members come to visit.  A couple weekends ago, I was thankful enough to have my mom come and visit me from Michigan.  When your family is in town, you have the excuse to do all the tourist-y things and try out all the restaurants that you’ve had on your to do list.  I’m here to share with you the best of the best events that took place while my mom was in town!

  1. Walk across the Brooklyn Bridge.  While I’m sure many of you have already done this, I was very late to the game, and boy do I regret it.  Walking across the bridge was a beautiful site that I have gone back to several times since I first walked it.  I highly recommend starting in Brooklyn and walking to the Manhattan side for a better view of the city!
  2. I-CE NY.  This Thailand ice cream spot is something that you have to see to believe.  The delicious ice cream is HAND ROLLED and made right in front of you.  The process is pretty incredible and you get to combine all your favorite flavors and toppings to your heart’s desire.
  3. Surfset NYC.  For all my fitness buffs out there, be sure to try Surfset NYC located at 64 East 4th St, 4th floor.  The class is based on surfing movements, static core training, and done all on a surfboard!  It was an awesome way to mix up my workout routine and try something new!  Find out more here: http://www.surfsetnyc.com/
  4. Friedman’s.  If you have yet to try out this classic restaurant spot in New York, you sure are missing out.  Everything on the menu is to die for and almost the entire menu is gluten free!  It is a great spot to bring your family, sure to make everyone’s appetites very happy.
  5. Egg Shop.  Everyone loves a good brunch and Egg Shop should be at the top of your list.  The quaint restaurant in Nolita has easily become my favorite place.  The egg options are endless!  Be sure to get there at a reasonable time or be prepared to wait.  Egg Shop is officially on everyone’s radar!

Be sure to try these places out soon!


American Horror Story: FIT

Halloween is approaching! MUAH-HA-HA

Halloween at FIT is different from anywhere else! After a long argument with myself on what I will be wearing for Halloween, I thought… what will I actually do on Halloween night!?

The concrete streets of the city will be filled with crazy costumes and wacky personalities; more than there usually is! Halloween is shoved down our throats earlier each year. So here are some attractions I came across that look absolutely insane…

1. Times Scare: Times Scare is a vibrant entertainment destination in the heart of New York City at 42nd and 8th Ave in one of the most haunted buildings in the nation! The haunted house is $27 for adults and $22 for children 12 and under. More information at timesscarenyc.com

2. BLOOD MANOR:  Blood Manor is a first class Haunted House attraction comprised of approximately 5,000 square feet of themed rooms, corridors, and a labyrinth of passageways designed to to maximize one’s fears.  Located at 163 Varick Street, in the heart of NYC’s Hudson Square District, chills will be down your spine! Tickets are $33.50 online, and also available at the door for $35. More information at bloodmanor.com

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3. Nightmare Horror Show: New York’s Most Terrifying Theater Festival running October 7th-31st. Located at the Flamboyan Theater at The Clemente, 107 Suffolk Street between Rivington and Delancey on Manhattan’s Lower East Side. All tickets are $25. For complete schedule of events, more information and to buy tickets visit nightmarenewyork.com


4. Village Halloween Parade: New York’s Village Halloween Parade is committed to the cultural and imaginative life of New York City. The 2015 Parade is located on 6th Avenue North of Spring Street to 16th Street from 7:00pm – 10:30pm on Halloween Night! Find out more information here.