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Yes, It Was My Way

 Yesterday I took my last final ever. It was probably my last day of school ever as well. It’s kind of crazy how fast college has gone by, and a little scary to think about such a huge change. However, I am happy with my four years here. These mixed feelings are hard to sum up, so I’ll just let Frank help me explain (yes, it’s cheesy, but just be glad I’m not using the “as we go on, we remember all the times we had together” song):

 

I’ve lived a life that’s full. I’ve traveled each and every highway; And more, much more than this, I did it my way

I think the most important aspect of my college career was that I tried everything I could and got to experience as much as possible. Salsa club, film critique, tennis, study abroad in Italy, walking the Camino de Santiago, fashion design, fabric styling, field biology, french conversation in Paris, the list can go on. This allowed me to meet so many interesting, lovely people and become excited about things I otherwise would not have even known about.

Regrets, I’ve had a few; But then again, too few to mention. I did what I had to do, and saw it through without exemption

I think people are most successful when they put their all into something, whether it be a project or an outfit. Sure, there may be some failures along your road, but I’ve heard some of the most accomplished people say they were not successful until they had their first huge failure. Failure is not something to be ashamed of, as long as you didn’t go down passively. If you’re going to fail, fail with all your might.

Yes, there were times, I’m sure you knew, when I bit off more than I could chew. But through it all, when there was doubt,  I ate it up and spit it out. I faced it all and I stood tall;  And did it my way

Personally, I viewed my biggest “failure” as when I realized I couldn’t keep doing the Fashion Design program, and that what I grew up thinking was my future was in reality not going to happen. At the time it seemed like the end of everything – my ambition, my dreams and goals – however, looking back now I am glad I switched out of Fashion Design. It was too much stress for me and I cannot imagine where I would be now mentally if I had stayed on. Deciding to switch majors was one of the hardest choices I had to make so far, but I’m glad I continued to my Bachelor’s and found a new path.

I’ve loved, I’ve laughed and cried. I’ve had my fill; my share of losing. And now, as tears subside, I find it all so amusing

FIT has certainly brought me a fair share of laughter and tears. I have made some of the craziest, silliest, best friends in the world over the past four years, and done some ridiculous and completely unforgettable things. On the flip side, if you ask my mom, I’m sure she could regale you with stories of late night crying phone calls and exasperated, endless discussions about my future, but looking back now it’s hard to remember those bad times. I would say don’t stress so much about making decisions and going crazy over little upsets, but it is hard to realize that in the moment.

For what is a man, what has he got? If not himself, then he has naught. To say the things he truly feels; And not the words of one who kneels. The record shows I took the blows – And did it my way!

You just have to do work that you can be proud of, and put your all into it. There are going to be obstacles and mistakes along your journey, I can guarantee it, so don’t worry about if it is going to happen, just know it is so important to not let those hardships stop you. And don’t be afraid of change, because change is not the end, it is not failing.

If you are a graduating senior in high school or college, I hope you feel as fulfilled as I do as you look back on your time thus far. And if you are facing a new chapter in your life, I hope my cheesy quote-advice will help reassure you as you begin a new path on your adventure.

 Thank you so much for reading my posts for the past two years!

–Emily–

” A Woman’s Role”

Hi everyone,

So as we all know for ages now a “women’s place” is supposed to be at home, or in a lower level of a job. But as of 2000 the amount of women with high salary jobs such as CEO’s managers, ect went up almost 15%. Women are taking over the work force with there professionalism, kind words of encouragement, and the it needs to be done right now attitude. Recently my cousin became a female officer, I couldn’t be more proud because for one being in the line of work is a very hard field especially for women. Also with all the bad media lately about law enforcement really scared me knowing that someone in my family would soon be out in it too.IMG_2016

But after having a conversation with her i didn’t realize that she does everything and more that a male officer would do while working. After really listening to her stories it really opened up my eyes to how little credit woman such as herself receive. Most people male or female couldn’t do the things she does on a daily basis. So now in 2015 there are more women in the work force then ever and more women are becoming police officers. So you can no longer say women are just in the kitchen making your sandwiches were on the street and in the office making a huge difference. So the week ladies i want you if you see a woman working hard and making a difference encourage her ! tell her you see her hard work, because it’s not always easy for us and we need all the strong women we can get in this world !

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( She was trying so hard not to laugh, as i had to take a quick selfie as the proud older cousin i am haha)

#empowereachother

Kailee

Moving…What to do

So I have officially moved into an apartment.  I will not lie and I must say that moving was one of the most stressful experiences throughout my college term thus far.  You will think that you don’t have a lot of stuff, but you will immediately question if you are a hoarder while you are packing.

  • I highly recommend keeping a stash of boxes that you’ve accumulated.  I held onto the boxes that I used to move in this past summer which made it incredibly easy for me to pack up before anyone got there to help me.
  • Look at furniture before you approach IKEA.  The initial IKEA trip is a massive feat.  Look at the furniture that you’re interested in online and print out the information for that furniture.  You’ll be able to better recognize the furniture in store to see if you really like it, rather than looking around for hours (the options are endless).  Also, if you know what you want, you can always ask a trusty, IKEA employee (always willing to help)!
  • Bring a dolly!  I don’t know what I would have done without a dolly.  It truly saved my life and my sanity, as well as my parents who helped me move in and out.  You don’t think you’ll need it, but you will.
  • Bed Bath & Beyond will be your best friend.  They are the more convenient IKEA for purchasing smaller things such as a shower caddy, bath mat, etc.
  • Stock up on toilet paper and paper towel if you can.  If you have the space for it, see if someone can bring you a Costco portion size of these items.  It’ll save you the monthly trip to the nearest Duane Reade where 4 rolls of toilet paper will be anywhere from $5-6.  You could be spending those $6 on better things like….frozen yogurt (treat yourself).

Best of luck!
Ashley

#Nepal

Hey everyone,

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With all the devastating occurs happening all around the world recently one that hasn’t been publicized as much as the Baltimore riots but should be is the earthquake that affected the people in Nepal. You may have seen it on Facebook recently that you can donate to the people there. Did you realize a lot of our students and staff at FIT are affected by this tragic event?

Coming from a small town in New Jersey you don’t always realize how many different people from all over the world you surround yourself with everyday when you are at FIT. More and more i have been noticing this walking through the hallways, sometimes you become so wrapped up in your own situation you forget that the people around you may be hurting.
So in the upcoming days i would like you to take a minute and think of a way you could help. It could be the smallest gesture by just saying a prayer or donating a dollar to the relief fund, or even giving someone who you see often in class some kind words of encouragement.

As for me i will be donating to UNICEF who vow to help the children of Nepal before, during an after this crisis.

“A devastating 7.8 magnitude earthquake near Nepal’s capital city of Kathmandu has claimed more than 5,000 lives, caused thousands of injuries, and destroyed homes and infrastructure. Some 1.7 million children require humanitarian assistance, and UNICEF is on the ground working to provide critical aid to children and families.” You can donate today too! Just follow my link below.

https://www.unicefusa.org/donate/nepal-earthquake-help-children-now/24226?ms=sem_dig_2015_misc_20150425_google&initialms=sem_dig_2015_misc_20150425_google&gclid=COroycGWn8UCFWoV7AodpS8An

#helpnepal

Kailee

#pledgepurple

 

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Hi everyone,

I hope you’re enjoying this lovely weather and you got to enjoy all the fun stuff in the breezeway for pledge purple today. What is pledge purple you may ask? It is FIT as a community standing up and saying no to domestic violence, that you are not alone!

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For me pledge purple was a very touchy subject,  I myself have been a victim of sexual harassment and for the longest time I was scared to admit it. I was scared people would think it was my fault that i let it get to that point. But when i said stop they didn’t listen and when it continued to happen and i said stop i knew something just wasn’t right.  Did you know that  1 in 3 women are victims of interpersonal violence? or how about nearly 80% ….yes i said 80%, of females reported experiencing a least one incident of physical or sexual aggression by the end of college? Its all around us and sometimes what seems to be a joke can turn out to be so much more then that.

There are so many cases of domestic violence not just with women or college students it happens to men to and to the men reading this if this is happening to you , you are not alone. An abusive wife or partner may hit, kick, bite, punch, spit, throw things or destroy your possessions. To make up for any difference in strength , but of course domestic abuse doesn’t haven’t to be just violent it could also be verbal abuse. They may belittle you or humiliate you in front of your friends, colleagues, or family. Be possessive, act jealous, ,make false allegation about you to the people around you. All these are also signs of abuse or domestic violence.

plede If it makes you feel uncomfortable then you dont have to be nice and play it off, you say no. If they dont stop when you say no , you find someone to help you. Talk to a counselor , go online find the nearest group you can go to talk about your problems, go to the police, you have so many options all around you! Dont ever let it get to that point!

To learn more you can go to www.nyc.gov/domesticviolence

pledge p] So thanks to these lovely people i will wear my shirt with pride and i will take my stance against domestic violence! So as of this very moment  today…

I pledge:

to RECOGNIZE that non-consensual sex is sexual assault.

to IDENTIFY situations in which sexual assault may occur.

to INTERVENE in situations where consent has not or can not be given.

to CREATE an environment in which sexual assault is unacceptable and survivors are supported.

This is my pledge , i hope you will join me and the many others that pledged today! Dont forget to tag #FITPLEDGEPURPLE and #Admissionsblog to help promote our wonderful event today on instagram, facebook and twitter.  We would love to know you were there!

XOXO
Kailee

 

Finishing an Internship. Now What?

As the semester comes to a close, many students, including myself are finishing off our semester long internships.  While this is my first internship through the school, I think there are a few standard requirements to say goodbye to your internship and leave on a good note.  Here’s my advice:

  1. Thank you note.  This is pretty standard, but it is important that you thank your supervisor(s) for giving you this opportunity.  A handwritten note given on the last day of your internship is always better than an email.  You don’t want to just leave without something physically tangible.  Whether your internship was amazing or not what you expected, you still learned what you liked and didn’t like.  You got something out of it, whether it was this grand wealth of knowledge or information to contribute to your future best-selling novel about internships.  Who knows?
  2. A gift.  While a thank you note is pretty much required, a gift is not.  It is though a very nice gesture to show your appreciation for your supervisor.  Whether you’re getting Baked by Melissa cupcakes for the whole department, our an individual Crumb’s cupcake, show your appreciation for your higher ups.
  3. A letter of recommendation and/or reference.  One of the most important things about an internship experience is what you learn and who you meet.  Having a letter of recommendation that you can bring to future interviews is a massive asset.  Ask your supervisor kindly for a letter of recommendation when you leave your internship rather than 6 months down the road and 24 hours before your interview.  The same goes with a reference.  Some supervisors may not want to be bothered, so check with your supervisor first and ask them what sort of communication they are okay with.  Do they prefer a phone call or email?  Be sure to ask!
  4. End on a good note.  Many sayings derive from “you’re only as good as your last (insert word)”.  This goes for internships too.  Just because it’s your last day or week, that doesn’t mean you should slack off or not take on new projects.  Give it your all as if it was your first week.  Be sure to leave on a positive note so that #3 will turn out in your favor.
  5. Reflect on what you learned. Internships are all about the learning experience so reflect on what you gained from your semester.  Decide what you want from your next internship and if you changed your career path or mindset compared to the beginning of your internship.
  6. Update your LinkedIn. This goes hand in hand with #5.  While the internship is still fresh in your mind, update your LinkedIn with the type of assignments and tasks that you did at your internship.  It’ll be much easier now when it’s fresh in your mind compared to a year from now because you finally reset your password!

Happy end of the semester!
Ashley

You’re Here, Now What?

You’ve made it to New York!! Tall buildings, bright lights, how exciting! …Now what? All your friends and family are back home. Your roommate is kinda cool, but you two don’t exactly “click”. Despite New York’s reputation as one of the loneliest cities there are many ways to meet cool people!

If you are missing being an athlete and bonding with a team, you can look for inter-city sports teams. If venturing off-campus is a little too daunting for you, FIT also has classes anyone can attend including yoga, spin, kickboxing and open gyms for basketball.

A fantastic way to meet people and give back to your new home is by volunteering. Believe it or not, this megalithic city doesn’t just run itself. The City has a program set up to match volunteers with types of organizations they are interested in working with, like the environment, community/neighborhoods, health, education, etc. Volunteer Match is another organization that finds opportunities close to you (but you can also sort based on your interests).

New York is a city full of artists. If you want to expand your creativity or be inspired by others there are ample opportunities to see artists at work. A fun and safe environment to overcome stage fright is The Open Mic Downstairs – a great place to meet other actors, comedians, singers, etc. It is also only $3 if you want to just see talented people letting themselves go. If spoken word (with some comedy) is more your style “Bareburger Unplugged” is a place also meant to be a safe environment for artists to experiment, and they have some of the best organic burgers on the island. Another fun way to meet people is to go to a paint night.  Located all over the city, and almost every day, this is no pressure studio time (the paintings they give as the sample are more like guidelines I say).

It can be kind of awkward to start a conversation with a random person out of the blue, so the easiest way to do it is to have something to talk about right away, like something you have in common. The best way to have this is to attend events that are centered around shared interests. New York Comic Con is one of the biggest and most famous example, although tickets can cost hundreds of dollars and sell out within minutes. Meetup facilitates meetings of people with similar interests, and extend all through New York City, not just Manhattan. These groups are incredibly diverse with runners, a Capella singers, “foodie couples”, and Jewish parents of Astoria (I don’t know if that last one would apply to anyone reading this, but hey, FIT has an incredibly diverse student body!). The coolest “meetup” idea I’ve seen, which I totally want to try ASAP, is meal sharing. Eat With puts up times that chefs in your area are hosting dinner parties or cooking classes. Not only is it a great way to have a fantastic, authentic  meal, but it is an awesome resource for students who cannot get home for the holidays, but still want to have a group meal.

For even more ideas try Time Out NY. Do any of you have suggestions?

–Emily–

The Juice Shop

So I have to tell you guys about my absolute favorite new place that recently just opened near Penn station and Starbucks. It’s called the Juice Shop, the kitchen and juicery takes juicing and healthy eating to a new raw experience. They pride themselves in freshness, using unpasteurized juicing with no preservatives, that make there stuff absolutely delicious.

IMG_1340Yesterday I went and I got oatmeal with apples, raisins , walnuts and maple syrup . It was only 5.95 for that huge bowl. I also got the “Prim and Proper” juice which was $9 which for a college student is a tad bit expensive but honestly so worth it. It was the best juice I have ever had, I got it two days in a row. I was the person that got Starbucks every morning but now I will be the person getting juice instead. It gave me so much energy after and I felt so much more focused in class without the actual jitters that can sometimes come with coffee and the crash if your drinking double espresso.

Some of the other things on the menu are:

  • Served daily until 11am
  • Granola served with coconut or Greek yogurt
  • Oatmeal Served with almond, coconut, or whole milk

Apple Pie-Fuji Apples, Rasins, Cinnamon, Walnuts, Maple Syrup

Strawberries, blueberries, raspberries, dried cranberries, Goji berries, mulberries, almonds, raisins, apricots, coconut milk

Bananas, raw honey, almond butter, almond milk

  • Over quinoa or brown rice
  • Add chicken or tofu $2
  • Add salmon $3

Beets, broccoli, carrots, edamame, hijiki seaweed, sunflower sprouts, carrot ginger miso dressing

Chopped Israeli Salad, Za’atar Feta, Tzatziki Yougurt Sauce

Chickpeas, Butternut Squash, Yellow Squash, Zucchini, Cauliflower, Dried Apricots, Parsley, Spicy Matbucha Sauce

Carrots, Broccoli, Edamame, Snow Peas, Red Cabbage, Scallions,
Spicy Almond Pad Thai Dressing

Black Beans, Fresh Corn Salad, Salsa Verde, Black Beans, Fresh Corn Salad, Chopped Israeli Salad, Zucchini, Yellow Squash

Carrots, Butternut Squash, Yellow Squash, Zucchini, Broccoli, Snow Peas, Green Coconut Curry Sauce


Korean Yams, Coconut Milk, Ginger, Agave, Himalayan Sea Salt

Butternut squash, almond milk, agave nectar, agar agar, maple syrup, cinnamon, nutmeg, allspice, maple extract, vanilla extract, Himalayan sea salt

cacao powder, coconut milk, agave nectar, agar agar, vanilla extract

They have so much more , you can see there full menu on there website http://thejuiceshopny.com/menu/#smoothies

Hope you guys decide to visit! Tell me what you think, what is your favorite thing there?

Maybe you’ll see me there :)

XOXO

Kailee

 

 

#Motivation

So being a college student just about anywhere can be pretty difficult. Being a working student is even harder. Did you know that nearly 80% of todays college students work and go to school and most cant even get a loan or finical aid?

My first semester at FIT I was working nearly 30 hours a week and was a full time student. I was in the interior design program, the work load is defiantly a full time job in itself. I was taking one day at a time trying to get through the program and wondering how I was going to pay for next semester. Needless to say my grades really suffered because I wasn’t putting in the time I should have been. As I got further into the program I was able to work less and learned how to manage my time much better. It was probably the hardest two years of my life, But I cant tell you I have ever felt more proud of myself then when I received my first diploma in the mail the other day. unnamed

Before this day I was struggling to get motivated again, I felt like my hard work wasn’t paying off. I had nothing to show for it. I was run down, tired, and mentally exhausted. Until I received this and it made me think of what motivated me all along. Sometimes all you need is to see your hard work pay off or remind yourself how you got where you are. After reevaluating all my hard work I thought of three things I normally do that make me motivated again.

1. Refocus. Take a day to yourself, do something you love try and remind yourself what got you to this point in your life.

2.Set Goals. This will help you see your dreams in a real life setting, you can set them for every week what you would like to accomplish or every year it all depends on what you think will work for you. Personally I set them for every six months , not to long where it feels like you will never get there and short enough to make you push yourself.

3. Speak with someone. Sometimes all you need is a kick in high gear , it can be anything from talking to someone you look up to , or your parents, an advisor, someone who knows you well enough to tell you how far you’ve come and how much you’ve achieved.

So to all of you that think its not possible it is! You will make it through the good and the bad days. So for now… “Wake up early. Drink coffee. Work hard. Work really hard. Be ambitious. Keep your priorities straight, your mind right and your head up. Do well , live well and dress really well. Do what you love, love what you do. It is time to start living”

XOXO

Kailee

Internships: the Good, the Bad and the Ugly

Everybody seems to have an opinion on internships. Are they necessary for “real world” learning? Is it just free labor? Do you actually learn anything worth while?

My opinion has certainly changed since starting at FIT. On the one hand, internships are necessary for the “real world” experience of working with a team, in an office and reporting to people above you. Almost any successful professional will tell you that working under someone is necessary, and you should do it even if it is unpaid. This is where it gets a little complicated.

On the one hand, internships offer (hopefully) invaluable experience, networking opportunities, helpful references, business insight and something to put on your resume. There is no doubt that employers want experience. It can also guide you in deciding what you actually want to do when you graduate. Even if you are absolutely positive you are going to be in advertising, do you want to work for a big company or a small company? An exciting but risky start-up, or a stable respected company where you will have much less responsibility or creative freedom? Are you sure the job you think you want is actually fulfilling?

However, many people now believe that internships are detrimental to students. They certainly take up a lot of time with most companies wanting at least two full days a week. It is also hard to quantify how much someone is learning at an internship. Are you just getting coffee, making copies and running things back and forth, or is your supervisor taking the time to make sure you understand what you are doing and, most importantly, why it is important? Most internships are unpaid, which brings up the argument that internships really only benefit middle to upper class kids who can afford to work for free. If a student is paying their own way through college it is unlikely they will have time for school, their job and an unpaid internship.

Of course, most places try to get around this now with “credit bearing” internships. These are also usually unpaid, but the student can get credit for a class. This allows the school to check up on the work place to ensure it is safe, and that the student is getting enough of an education to make the time spent there worth it. However, these credit-bearing internships are not offered by every company and usually require the student to add  another class to their schedule. This limits the flexibility of their schedule for other classes and obviously takes away more time.

If I may interject with my own opinion here, I do think internships are necessary. The ones I did have certainly helped me see what jobs I thought I was interested in more clearly. I have been exposed to big companies, little companies and growing companies. I have learned a lot and made many helpful connections. However, I have never been paid for my work. I have never even been compensated for lunch or travel. Looking back now, it is very frustrating as well as quite disheartening considering I am looking for a job and having done all this work is not  a guarantee I will get hired. I met a woman recently and asked her if she would ever need a research assistant. She replied that she would love an assistant, but could not afford to pay fair compensation at the moment, and did not feel it was right to accept that labor for free. Even though it was an opportunity I could not have, I was so happy when she said that! I mean it was so refreshing just to hear someone say, “I can’t hire you, but I respect you, your work, and your time too much to let you work for nothing.”

What are your opinions? Have you had any good or bad experiences with internships?

–Emily–