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Notes From the 6 Train: Implementing Grace (When Life Changes Without Your Permission)

I just returned from Boston where I attended my best friend’s graduation. Look how beautiful she looked!


I am beyond proud of my her, she’s essentially my sister, as I’ve known her since we went to kindergarten together. She’s not just good-looking, but also incredibly intelligent & passionate. This fall she will continue her education at Berkeley to get her Phd.

I was slated to graduate this May, but as I am a transfer student, I was set back by just a semester. So I will be graduating in the fall (yay!). For a while, I was quite upset that I wasn’t graduating “on time.” I felt like I was failure, and was ashamed about telling people, as there is stigma about graduating “late” (which I’m not sure what that means since there are significant amount of students who graduate undergrad in more than 4 years.)


But, as mentioned before, not only am I “okay,” with the fact that I have a remaining semester, but I am thankful for it. There are programs, people and things I would am able to do that are necessary for (that have and will continue to mold my life) if I graduated this May. This was certainly about a bigger plan, divine order if you will.

This, learning to deal with unforeseen circumstances with grace, is one of the most important lessons I’m learning, which has been spearheaded by college events. If I hadn’t, I would have been at my soul sister’s graduation reeling with hidden jealously and disappointment. However, knowing, confidently that both of our paths are leading us to passionate,full lives of magic and love, I was able to be in present and overwhelming proud with a heart of joy.

Sometimes, we set plans and things change. And that’s okay. A quote I heard recently and identified with a lot is “we make plans & God laughs,” that’s life. Let go of the reins and enjoy the ride.

All Things Color, Love & Fashion,
Ayanna Lane

Yes, It Was My Way

 Yesterday I took my last final ever. It was probably my last day of school ever as well. It’s kind of crazy how fast college has gone by, and a little scary to think about such a huge change. However, I am happy with my four years here. These mixed feelings are hard to sum up, so I’ll just let Frank help me explain (yes, it’s cheesy, but just be glad I’m not using the “as we go on, we remember all the times we had together” song):


I’ve lived a life that’s full. I’ve traveled each and every highway; And more, much more than this, I did it my way

I think the most important aspect of my college career was that I tried everything I could and got to experience as much as possible. Salsa club, film critique, tennis, study abroad in Italy, walking the Camino de Santiago, fashion design, fabric styling, field biology, french conversation in Paris, the list can go on. This allowed me to meet so many interesting, lovely people and become excited about things I otherwise would not have even known about.

Regrets, I’ve had a few; But then again, too few to mention. I did what I had to do, and saw it through without exemption

I think people are most successful when they put their all into something, whether it be a project or an outfit. Sure, there may be some failures along your road, but I’ve heard some of the most accomplished people say they were not successful until they had their first huge failure. Failure is not something to be ashamed of, as long as you didn’t go down passively. If you’re going to fail, fail with all your might.

Yes, there were times, I’m sure you knew, when I bit off more than I could chew. But through it all, when there was doubt,  I ate it up and spit it out. I faced it all and I stood tall;  And did it my way

Personally, I viewed my biggest “failure” as when I realized I couldn’t keep doing the Fashion Design program, and that what I grew up thinking was my future was in reality not going to happen. At the time it seemed like the end of everything – my ambition, my dreams and goals – however, looking back now I am glad I switched out of Fashion Design. It was too much stress for me and I cannot imagine where I would be now mentally if I had stayed on. Deciding to switch majors was one of the hardest choices I had to make so far, but I’m glad I continued to my Bachelor’s and found a new path.

I’ve loved, I’ve laughed and cried. I’ve had my fill; my share of losing. And now, as tears subside, I find it all so amusing

FIT has certainly brought me a fair share of laughter and tears. I have made some of the craziest, silliest, best friends in the world over the past four years, and done some ridiculous and completely unforgettable things. On the flip side, if you ask my mom, I’m sure she could regale you with stories of late night crying phone calls and exasperated, endless discussions about my future, but looking back now it’s hard to remember those bad times. I would say don’t stress so much about making decisions and going crazy over little upsets, but it is hard to realize that in the moment.

For what is a man, what has he got? If not himself, then he has naught. To say the things he truly feels; And not the words of one who kneels. The record shows I took the blows – And did it my way!

You just have to do work that you can be proud of, and put your all into it. There are going to be obstacles and mistakes along your journey, I can guarantee it, so don’t worry about if it is going to happen, just know it is so important to not let those hardships stop you. And don’t be afraid of change, because change is not the end, it is not failing.

If you are a graduating senior in high school or college, I hope you feel as fulfilled as I do as you look back on your time thus far. And if you are facing a new chapter in your life, I hope my cheesy quote-advice will help reassure you as you begin a new path on your adventure.

 Thank you so much for reading my posts for the past two years!


Wise Words for Your Monday Morning

Tonight as I finished up my homework, I wandered over to FIT’s website out of curiosity as to what would be happening this upcoming week on campus. After scrolling through this months events calendar, my eyes fell upon a graphic entitled “Meet FIT.” I can only thank the internet God’s for making me click that. I was directed to FIT’s YouTube channel which until now, I didn’t even know existed!

I first watched the video titled “Meet FIT,” which included a group of students, faculty and alumni (including Calvin Klein himself) describing what makes FIT the wonderful & innovative college that it is. I couldn’t have agreed more with what some in the video were saying. FIT’s channel includes different playlists of videos such as Academics (which showcases student projects from different art & design programs), Fashion Shows (where you can watch entire videos of FIT’s prestigious annual Future of Fashion show) and finally Commencement (where you can watch clips of speakers from graduation.)

Having just applied to graduate with my associates degree (what?!?!!!), I have graduation on the mind. Personally, I chose not to walk the stage to receive my AAS diploma but I most definitely will when I complete my bachelors. However, I was still very curious as to what a graduation ceremony at FIT would be like. I’d only ever been to my older siblings college graduation ceremonies, neither of which were from fashion schools! So, I think I might be a little more interested in this one 😉

The list of speakers from year to year is jaw-dropping! Names like Fern Mallis, Rebecca Minkoff and Joe Zee (to name a few) are enough to keep me motivated for the next two and a half years, just so I can see who will be at my graduation! The amount of speakers I could listen to on this channel is somewhat overwhelming, so I’ll be up for the next couple hours catching up!

I travelled back to 2011’s graduation when I saw that Glenda Bailey, the editor-in-chief of Harper’s Bazaar, had given a speech. Harper’s Bazaar has been my favorite publication for years and to think I could sit and listen to someone of Bailey’s caliber speak at my own graduation ceremony is beyond exciting. But the best part is – because of FIT’s YouTube channel, I’m able to watch her speech and pretend I was there!

Bailey was speaking at the ceremony after receiving the Lifetime Achievement Award from FIT. Her speech was brief, but very impactful. Her wise words (spoken in her delightful British accent) to 2011’s group of graduates gave me butterflies of excitement. I know these next two and a half years won’t always be the easiest. But once I’m sitting in that audience, donning my cobalt blue cap & gown, listening to someone like Glenda Bailey (maybe even Glenda Bailey herself!) I will look back at these years of hard work with the biggest smile and sense of accomplishment.

I suggest you take a look at FIT’s YouTube channel. Take a look at what YOU will be a part of, on campus, in class, and get those butterflies of excitement just like I did. Although I have not yet graduated, speeches like these give me the strength I need to wake up on a Monday morning and begin my week. I leave you on this fine Sunday evening with some of these wise words from Ms. Glenda Bailey.

“It’s today that I want you to really smell the success. You’ve worked so hard to achieve it, to enjoy it. You see, getting a degree was one of the best things that happened to me, and it’s one of the very, very best things that has happened to all of you…Remember that there’s no such thing as a problem, only an opportunity. Remember that sometimes good can be the greatest enemy of great and to really follow your dream. Today is the first day that’s going to start to make your dreams come true.”

Have a magnificent week, my friends!

xx, Brendan